Urban Dictionary, one of my trusted sources for "hip" information these days, defines frenemy as...
"The type of "friend" whose words or actions bring you down.(whether you realize it as intentional or not) The type of friend you ought to cut off but don't cuz...they're nice... good ...you've had good times with them. U know...they're good people that you can count on to bring you down again sometime in the near future.The friend you may or may not have cornered about their quicksand like ways and keep around because "its in the past"...and so was one minute ago. The person that will continue to bring you down until you demand better for yourself."
If you read that definition and didn't think of someone you know, you're lying. I think we all have a frenemy. That friend that doesn't really add value to our lives. I don't mean that as they aren't valued as a person, I mean they are the type of friend who doesn't make you feel good.
You would think frenemies would be more prevalent in high school and college, but I truly believe you see them more in motherhood. There is something about comparing others' children and parenting choices that makes people feel better about themselves.
Honestly, it doesn't really bother me. If someone needs to compare their child to mine for validation, let them. But, I don't have time for that kind of friendship in my life. It's just not worth it.
Which brings me to my next point... parenting confidence. I was talking to my best friend yesterday about how confident I feel these days as a parent.
I don't care that my kid isn't potty trained or learning spanish. My daughter and I are figuring out this world together, her as her own little person and me as a parent.
Picnics on the kitchen floor while wearing headbands (aka princess crowns) has never been more fun!